Hey guys, I recently read "How To Win Friends & Influence People" by Dale Carnegie which you can purchase here.
It helped me with my social anxiety, sounds weird but it's true.
Social anxiety is all about worrying about the self.
Your conscience focuses on the worrisome thoughts about how you are being perceived by others.
It's quite bothersome.
"How To Win Friends & Influence People" it is likely to enlighten you.
It will help with your social anxiety or depression.
Let's quickly go over the rules.
Principle 1: Don’t criticize, condemn or complain
Principle 2: Smile
Principle 3: Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language
Principle 1: Don't criticize, condemn or complain of other people.
If you are like me and you sometimes want to criticize someone you just met, don't, haha.
Use honest appreciation.
Don't even do it in your head, just accept people the way they are.
They won't change any way, you'll be the only one unhappy.
If you interact with people and don't judge them, they will feel welcomed and drawn to you.
You'll have more friends than you know what to do with.
Principle 2: Smile, seems simple enough. But it's hard for some people. Just remember how nice it is when someone looks you in the face and bravely smiles. It makes you feel seen, heard and understood. How nice is that, again, you will have people wanting to be around you more if you are happy. I know these seem trite and lame. But they work and if you have social anxiety you should probably worry less about how trite and lame you are, others are... and just try some new things and loosen up right.
Principle 3: Always remember peoples names, compliment them genuinely when you know its right timing.
NEVER try to manipulate.
Henry Ford "if there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person angle as well as from your own."
This means, listen to other people and try to understand them.
Don't just wait for your turn to talk.
Try to understand people, and learn what they want. Then help them get it!
Hopefully this was helpful, you can watch the full video here
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